Roles, correctness, and kinky behaviour

I`ve heard a good one: "We`re all politically correct till we hop in bed".

Then again, there are many repressed sides of our personalities. What hit me was that inside ourselves there are polar opposite twins that fight each other for dominance, one loving one thing and the other hating it. It was freedom to see myself as multiple instances of love-hate, and NOT as just one boring person.

Also, it was enlightening to see the various roles that I take in my life: brother, writer, driver, dreamer, cleaner, sleeper, observer, human being, chef. Each has one dominant trait that conflict with the other roles traits. For example, if the writer needs to write, and the human is hungry, the angry chef takes over.

For those of you that would like to explore this hidden side of kinky behavior: bdsmtest.org is a nice start. For the results: What has over 70% of the power of a side is important for you, or the first 5-6 traits is the go-to. I was amazed at that time that my partner had such different tastes that she wasn`t even aware of.