vineri, 6 septembrie 2019

Analiza in profunzime a unor melodii preferate, dar agitate


Din fericire, natura ne-a dat toamna tocmai pentru a ne apropia de interiorul nostru. 
Gata cu distractiile verii! Devenim gospodarii colturilor noastre interioare.

Se spune ca inteleptul invata de la toti oamenii.  

Asta-seara doresc sa fiu putin mai intelept decat  am fost ieri, si am ales cateva piese rock agitate din perioada liceului meu (2004-2007).

Constat cu stupoare ca dincolo de urletele si frustrarile celor care isi sustin parerile la microfon sunt cateva nevoi neimplinite.



Ferris Wheels, Rodelbahns and a Near Death Experience in ...


  1. Sa incepem cu Devildriver- Digging up the corpses


„Everyone's Got Skeletons In Their Closet
 Don't Ask Me, Where They Got It
 You Should Have Told The Truth A Long Time Ago.

LIAR! LIAR!

Digging Up The Corpses (Once Again) Tell Me Another Story.
Digging Up The Corpses, That Haunt You, That Haunt You.”

Aici, dezhumarea cadavrelor nu are de-a face cu vreo fapta ilegala. Mai probabil ca solistul are o nevoie acuta de adevar si dreptate, fiind mintit de cineva cu care are un anumit tip de relatie.  

E o nevoie de sinceritate, precum si cererea celuilalt sa dezgroape cadavrele sale, poveste cu poveste,  si  astfel sa invete din ele, ca sa fie el/ea in regula mai intai, si mai apoi relatia lor va putea creste (cred eu) armonios.

NB, ”Devildriver” se spune ca era un obiect cu care vrajitoarele izgoneau demonii.


 Continuam cu Mudvayne- Forget to remember


What have I done? Where have I come from
When I burnt the backs with the sun through a glass did I seal the loss that's become me?

Feeling undone. What have I become?

When I turned my back on you I turned my back on myself and became this machine

Aici, protagonistul incepe un drum spre interior, dandu-si seama ca a devenit, pe nesimtite o caricatura automatizata a sa, ducand la  o inevitabila scadere a calitatii relatiei.

Thoughtlessness Selfishness  Hopelessness Arrogant

I feel it on the inside
Twisting and contorting
Shadows in the sun Filter through us

Still wrestle the demons that arrested me as a child
Confession rejected 
We grow up To give up

In continuare, omul nostru suferind, devine constient de cum a devenit, prin cele patru cuvinte din primul rand. In el se da o veritabila lupta intre demonii care l-au tinut prizonier pe copilul sau interior, si isi da seama ca trebuie sa renunte la inchisoarea lor, evadand din ea.

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PS. Acum ma simt pregatit sa dau (iar) bacul la limba si literatura română. :P


Concluzie.

Am destule exemple ca persoanele care prefera muzica rock si nuantele ei au o viziune faina asupra lumii si o inteligenta peste media populatiei, si bravo lor pentru asta!

Anumite melodii rock au o traire emotionala intensa, si nu trebuie sa ne incarcam cu trairile muzicienilor. Dar avem ceva din noi care rezoneaza cu mesajul lor.

Constat cu bucurie si cu stupoare, ca dincolo de zgomotul acela, se afla un om cu un suflet, la fel ca al meu si ca al tau, care a ales sa alchimizeze trairea sa, transpunand-o in muzica.

Avertizare: Ritmul si incarcatura melodiilor de mai sus sunt destul de intense, putand fi considerat negativ.

Dar haidem sa nu clasificam totul in nuante absolute de negativ si pozitiv. 
Prefer mai degraba UTIL si INUTIL.


O seară interioară plină de fructe de digerat sau de aruncat!

marți, 3 septembrie 2019

Dăruind...

5 Ways to Give and Expect Nothing in Return – Personal ...


Nu conteaza ce oferi, ci starea din care oferi.


Astazi a fost o zi deosebita, in care am fost ajutat de multe persoane, culmea, fara sa cer, in momentele oportune.

Dar sa revenim la saptamana trecută....


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Am contactat-o pe o doamna care se ocupa cu organizatul bazarului NUCA Garage Sale [targ caritabil de toamna] , a organizatiei create pentru ajutorarea pisicilor si cainilor. Era peste mana sa donez lucruri care nu imi foloseau, dar erau in stare buna, tocmai pentru ca eu nu mai locuiesc in Cluj.

Sau asta suna aaa... PROVOCARE? :D 

Asa ca m-am pus pe treaba.
In wekend mi-am adus de la bunici prima mea chitara, FLAME DG400, cumparata de acum 4 ani, in stare grozava, pe care am si lustruit-o si am adaugat ceva bonus.
Apoi, am adaugat aparatul meu Made in Japan: Panasonic TZ4, cu DOI acumulatori buni inca de la cumparare, functiona destul de bine. Sigur ar fi bucurat un pasionat de fotografie care nu isi permite un aparat mai scump de 100 de lei.

Am inceput sa intorc apartamentul de la Sebes pe dos, si am gasit urmatoarele.

Trei carti (aventuri, de cuplu si cu animale)
O pereche de ochelari 3D noi
Un magnet de frigider
Un metru de croitorie
O casuta de ceramica
O rola de smirghel
Un fluier de tip cocoș
O borseta sport aproape noua
O perna potcoava pentru mers cu autobuzul
O patura in stare buna, dar pe care nu o mai foloseam
Trei tricouri sport in stare buna, la fel
Un adaptor de 3.5 spre jack de amplificator chitara electrica.
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Chitara Flame, husa, pana, curea
Aparat foto Panasonic TZ4 cu incarcator si husa


Le-am pus pe toate cu grija in folie si le-am trimis sa bucure pe cei care le aleg. Iar chitarei i-am spus sa duca o parte din rabdarea mea unui om care are nevoie sa invete, dar care nu isi permite un instrument mai scump.


1. 

Dimineata, am plecat  catre serviciu cu o plasa burdusita intr-o mana, cu ghiozdanul in spate, cu chitara in alta, chinuindu-ma sa tin cu ultimele doua degete si punga de gunoi si mancarea de pisici in aceasi mana.

Cand dau coltul blocului, aud in spatele meu niste pasi... Ajung la capatul blocului, si ma opresc. Las chitara jos si strig pisicile.
Un nene se opreste in dreptul meu. Era tuciuriu. slab, netuns, si umbla foarte greu, ca si cand avea un picior mai scurt decat celalalt. Avea o mana stransa, nefunctionala, mai probabil post AVC...

Ma priveste fix si zice cu avânt: „Dă că mă duc eu la gunoi cu plasa”.

Mie nu imi venea sa cred. Nu imi cere nimic, si ma ajuta? O fi de la chitară, că, deh, muzicantii se inteleg intre ei :P
După o secundă m-am deblocat si i-am zis omului din spatele aspectului sau un sincer: „Mulțumesc!”


2.

 Dupa serviciu, ma indrept frenetic către autogara, la fel de incărcat. Autobuzul era deja parcat, cu motorul mergand. Grabesc pasul...

Domnul sofer tocmai terminase de mancat un covrig, si statea rezemat cu mana dreapta de usa de la bagaje.
Îmi vede chitara. și  da din cap admirativ.
După ce pun plasa cu grija, dau sa intru cu chitara in autobuz, dornic sa o duc cu orice pret. Si intre picioare daca e musai.

Imi face un semn ca are o usa in spate mai mica, unde nu sunt bagaje...

Mie tot nu imi venea sa cred. Incă un ajutor!? Superb. Era un om simpatic si politicos, cum rar mai vezi!

3.

 Ajung in Observator, si livrez fericit pachetul unor persoane faine, cu imbracaminte si stil de rebel, dar cu un zambet larg si cald, care m-a ajutat in a imi recapata increderea in oameni.
 Doamna nu isi mai putea stapani bucuria pentru ca primeste atatea chestiuni pentru micuți. Imi spune repede ce a mai primit in ultimele saptamani.


4. 

Dupa ce am achizitionat un vehicul de transport, grozav de util. intr-un pachet grozav de greu, ma intalnesc cu tipul de pe BlaBlaCar, serviciu de transport ad-hoc intre localitati. Ieftin si bun. Platesti si cu povesti, pe langa ceva banuți.

Dupa ce facem loc cutiei enorme in portbagaj, il rog sa ma duca pana acasa, in fata blocului, in drumul spre Sibiu.

Nici nu a respirat bine si deja era de acord!



Concluzie.

Am avut o cursa faina, plina de povesti, intr-o zi plina,  si acum vad ca viata poate fi si altfel!

Astazi nu a fost usor, dar am perseverat! Inca un pas spre minimalism.

Dupa cum spunea un vorbitor de la TEDxCluj 2019, o fapta buna care nu e scrisa sau povestita, isi pierde jumatate din valoare, deoarece avem constanta nevoie de modele pozitive, care sa contracareze stirile tensionate prezentate de mass-media.

Sunt recunoscator fiecarei persoane care m-a ajutat, chiar si prin prezenta ei in viata mea!

PS: Mai puteti dona, daca sunteti din CLUJ, pana pe 13 septembrie.

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luni, 1 aprilie 2019

Music, Critical Thinking, and a few Personal Needs






I`m a big fan of music. I especially feel Jazz, Blues, and also Soul and Funk.
A few years back, i noticed i could have a musical comeback to almost every conversation that I had. And it went nicely, entertaining the people I was with.

I`ve discovered the guitar about 4 years ago, and exploring the basic fingerstyle method ( harmonics), 12 bar blues, power chords (think of ACDC) and basically simple tabs of every song that i could think of (and could find online).
This, along with the public speaking journey in a renowned local club, helped me enhance and exercise my vocal variety (pitch, pace, power, pauses), and to teach it to everyone that I`ve been in contact with. All of them combined, with the critical thinking at my job, gave me an ehnanced hearing and argumentation techniques.

Thus, I have a confession to make.
I absolutely love the complexity of this David Guetta song:



   


But why do I like this pop song this much? So I started to write a youtube comment, that I later edited in order to become this post :
"I don`t really need to watch he video in order to enjoy this piece of music. Bebe Rexha.has a great tone of voice.
Also, the xylophone is very rarely used in music nowadays.


Imagini pentru xylophone

The CONTRAST between the roughness (warrior-like) tone of her voice, her vocal variety, (the way she is playing with her voice), her excellent pronounciation AND the monotonous, simple and uplifting song of the xylophone is PURE GOLD. Also, speaking the truth of both sexes, right below or very "ears", in the first part of the song. Men : dressing up the truth (Lying aka mastering the art of words and speech).
Women : dressing up for you (in order to stand out from other women, and to be appreciated, using make-up to look more attractive). In other words she needs to be told the truth, and the name is the purest and most beautiful song that you can hear in your lifetime. In my opinion, by saying "I`m dying to belive you",she tells the man she needs to feel special and meaningful to him.

Off the record, It reminds me of the 5 lOVE LANGUAGES book. In this case it`s the first one (words of affirmation). Saying straightforwardly what you like about the other person.

Imagini pentru 5love languages


David Guetta remains a master of music. I`m glad he`s back.. "
And he STILL tailors it to my needs :P.

marți, 15 ianuarie 2019

On marriage, communication, and meaningfulness


"Man is free at the moment he wishes to be". - Voltaire


I am now 30 years of age, and I just started to get the hang of adult life in a new town. Here, in this relatively small town, most of the people my age are married.
Even in my hometown, I`ve seen the trend that makes you feel that you have a problem if you are not.
The problem with marriage is that it is a parasitic, artificial bond.
Half of them will end in divorce. And I want a simple life for that matter. Men will always want freedom and error correction, attention and clarity in order to evolve. And women need the flow of love and appreciation,to feel beautiful and to FEEL the energy of the man they are with. For more information, read/ listen to David Deida on that matter (The Way of the Superior Man). It is deeep AF. And his voice is magnetic. Also, the Five Love Languages. I couldn`t get enough of both. I re-read them every year or so. In order to unlearn the social conditioning, that is ;). Back to marriage, it is a trend, an obligation of age, and is occurs not because you want it to, but because of social pressure from your family and friends/ coworkers. The story is the same with having children. Will the two decisions make you happy? It depends on your values and emotional needs. Will the decisions make THEM happy? For a short while, probably. :P
It feels like being locked up in a box with a person that you will appreciate less and less, with every year that passes. Everyone needs their space and their corner. And could you appreciate a person if he or she naturally changes every year? Maybe, if you two grow in a similar rhythm and direction.

An alternative solution I have been a Toastmaster for about 5 years. I am frequently joking that I`m happily married to this non-profit club and my girlfriend knows about it. :P
Here, every six months, we have an evaluation of progress called the "Moments of Truth". In brief, the members are asked about: "What goes well?", "What doesn`t go well? " "What actions can we take in order to improve ourselves and our club?" "Where are we headed if we continue to behave like this? "
Bonus: "Can we afford to PAY the PRICE for it ?". My suggestion is getting toghether with your significant other and having a talk like this every month. This including the questions above. And talk about it as responsible adults.
Furthermore, every 6 months or 1 year, to rewiew the entire period, and see if changes were made and how did they affect your relationship. And to answer the big, painful and important question: "Should we go on, or go sepparate ways? ".
If this is not done, we will get to a point in which we HAVE to answer this question above there will be no time left to avoid it.. So, why not do it more often, and with clarity?
It is said that not the lack of love ends a relationship, but the lack of communication.

Speaking of communication, here is a story : A few years ago, I was visiting a lady that cared for an elderly patient in a home in Italy.
She said they were living a happy marriage, in a big house like in the movies. In which everyone had freedom and had alloted time in paralell to do his or her hobbies. When you were golfing, she was reading. When you were sleeping, she was shopping. There was (1) an alloted time for the kids and (2) alloted time for the couple, and (3) for themselves. Thus was much more simple because everyone`s needs were met.
Short plan: On an 8 hour workday, you are left witth 6-8 hours of sleep. And 8 hours for yourself. 2 hours you eat. 2 hours activites wiht the kids, 2 hours for yourself, and 2 hours for your wife.
One idea I`ve heard of is getting up at 5AM and paying yourself first . You have 2 hours to do what you need to do. Because you cannot give anything to anyone before having it yourself in the first place. If this does not happen, the people around you are going to ask you for things. And if you do not have what to give them, you will be cornered. And enter fight, flight or freeze mode.
Men, women and their roles in society
From some Tantra courses, I`ve been aware of the fact that being in the role of father, brother, husband (for men) and the role of mother, wife, or let`s say sister (for women) has an enourmous price to pay.
Millions of women forget to be women and become the avatar of mother, that oblitterates the link with the source that made them. They will fight to keep the role active, even if it means sucking the very own life out of them. The same with fathers !!!
Statistically, the suicidal rate for both men and women is exploding in the first 2-6 months after retiring from the job. Because again, NO ONE knows WHAT TO DO WITH THEIR LIFE.
This means "Taking yourself too seriously". Even after the children have fled the nest, the parents will not know what to do with their life now. Their role is obsolete. They do not have someone to control or have a fight with. Just for the fun of it and because of habit.
My advice: Get a hobby or more, and find people that share it. It will make you a better and a healthier person. A plus for self esteem and the miracle of self-discovery. Do not sacrifice it for anyone! Hold your ground! *** A model I`ve grown fond of is "The PAC Model'. 'Unfortunately, in between our adult role, we also have our parent and our child roles (+behaviours) inside of us. Here we can analyse ourselves using our partner as a trigger. And make peace with ourselves in the process.
We can talk about feelings, and identify needs that were covered up by our automatic behaviours. I reccommend checking NVC (Non Violent Communication) articles and courses.
In this illustration we have a model, in which states that if a husband of a wife is making judgements and is entering the parent role, the other one, takes up the child role, and thus they have a disfuncional relationship and communication. They are just like caricatures. Not being able to get out of that role or even to be aware of this.
Imagine similară
The same is when one of them is acting childlishly, for example, being overly spoilt. Then comes the MIGHTY PARENT OF DOOM in order to discipline them!!! And this strays away from the love communication into a fear based interaction. Using the model above, two much more appropriate examples come to mind: (1) If they both want to play and be silly, then they both enter their child roles and there is no difference. No complaints whatsoever, especially after the funny activity has ended. (2) When both of them are in an adult role, from that perspective, they can have meaningful conversations, without intense emotions and with deep understanding of one another. Just like when you want to plan out a holiday. And each of them shares their interests and details of the trip.
Final words:
The greatest gift that a man can give a woman is the chance for her to miss him. And when HE IS around, to be present with her, authentic, therefore in touch with his inner source first and foremost.
As for me, I am aware that I want to share deep and meaningful connections with the people around me. I do not feel that marriage is for me. I do not see it as a benefit. A signed sheet of paper plus an overpriced party with hundreds of guests and thousands of stress factors will NOT grant me the happiness and fulfillment that it promises. I have my guitars, harmonicas and numerous feathered friends for that.
If not, I have my limited number of breaths and willpower that I will not be wasting. Life is short. And I was close to the end, but it made me alive, and willing to leave a better world around me. through teaching, and my personal example.
Maa-rriage? Hmmpf !
Why bother influencing 1 spouce and 1 to 2 children when you cand influence thousands of people online and offline? Why? Because I have ALL the time to myself !